My assistant comes from poverty too. She’s six years younger than me. A force of nature. A person full of potential if allowed the opportunity to grow into it. We balance each other out soft/hard but we have both been trying to also fine the balance within ourselves. Today she made the comment “you taught me to be soft and I taught you to be firm” and other than it being true (she is very much the reason I walked into my boss’ office and asked for a raise — and got it–). Here’s the thing that took me a long time to realize. Romantic relationships are not the most important kind of relationship. They are important– but not as important as friendship. The friendships I have cultivated in the last few years have been the most impactful of my life. I’m very grateful Haley breezed into my office one fateful day two years ago. I grateful that I was able to hire her and to see her grow. I am most grateful that I can now call her a friend.
30-something Mississippi queer. Bleeding heart with a soft spot for honesty and oversharing. Conquering corporate America and my own insecurities– one day at a time.